Finding Joy in the Unexpected: 5 Lessons from Raising a Medically Complex Child

Some days the world feels heavy. Some days the appointments, therapies, and questions seem never-ending. But I want to tell you the truth I live every single day: there is joy here, even in the unexpected places. I’m C.C., a single mom to my son Jace, who is medically complex, nonverbal, wheelchair-dependent, and full of light. These five lessons come from my real, messy, miracle-filled life with him. I hope they encourage you today.

Lesson 1 – Celebrate the Tiny Victories

When you’re in the middle of caregiving, the big wins are rare. So we learn to celebrate the small ones. A new sound, a peaceful night, a comfortable drive to the park; these are the moments that remind us life is still full of goodness.

• Clapping when Jace holds a toy longer than usual.
• Celebrating a successful therapy session with a favorite song.
• Naming the small wins out loud so they don’t get lost.

Lesson 2 – Let Go of The Expectations You Had Before You Knew

I had plans…the kind every mother dreams of. When life wrote a different story for Jace, I had to grieve those expectations and choose new dreams. This doesn’t mean giving up hope; it means making room for what actually is and finding beauty there.

“Expectations are not promises. Learning to let them go freed me to love the life I actually have.”

Lesson 3 – Find Joy in Connection

You cannot and should not do this alone. Joy often comes from connection with your child, your family, or your support network. Community can look like the neighbor who brings dinner, the medical parent group that understands your exhaustion, or the online friend who texts a prayer at midnight. Let people in. Let them show up.

Lesson 4 – Self-care Isn’t Selfish; It’s Survival

Sometimes self-care is five minutes in the car breathing. Sometimes it’s a quick walk while the kids nap. I learned the hard way that I’m better for Jace when I’m cared for too. You don’t need permission to protect your peace.

1. Ten deep breaths when the morning starts fast.
2. A 10-minute devotional or prayer time.
3. Saving $5 a week for a “small treat” fund.

Lesson 5 – Faith Is a Practice, Not a Feeling

Faith doesn’t always feel loud. Most days it’s a quiet choice; choosing to believe there’s purpose in the pain, choosing to show up anyway, choosing to pray when the answers aren’t clear. That choice has kept me steady.

Encouragement for Parents
Raising a medically complex child isn’t easy. There are days filled with tears, uncertainty, and exhaustion. But there are also moments of profound joy, wonder, and love. The key is to celebrate the unexpected, lean on faith, and trust God’s plan.

Take a deep breath, look for the joy in today, and know that your love, patience, and faith are making a difference. 💜

Resources i use

• My curated caregiving kit →
• Encouragement Journal (free download) →
• A Faith That Doesn’t Quit (my book) →

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A Prayer For US

Heavenly Father, give strength to the tired, peace to the worried, and joy to the heavy heart. Remind us we are seen and loved. In Jesus’s name, amen.

I pray for you, you pray for me. And together, we watch God change things. — C.C.

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C.C. Nichols, BA, BSN, RN – single mom, author of A Faith That Doesn’t Quit, host of My Three Plus Me, and mama to Jace. I write about faith, caregiving, and the small joys that keep us going. About